Women's Divorce Blog

06 May 2019

  • Do You Need Separate Birthday Parties?
    Celebrating your child's birthday after divorce can be a tricky situation. These tips can help.
  • Divorcing a Narcissist
    Getting divorced is tough no matter what, but be prepared for a battle if your spouse has narcissistic tendencies.
  • Best Way to Sell an Engagement Ring after Divorce
    After a bad marriage and a bad divorce, many women are ready to get rid of this symbol of eternal love. These tips can help turn your bridal bling into money.
  • Allow Yourself to Heal
    Denying the emotional pain of divorce by trying to avoid it or push it away can actually extend the time it takes to heal. Instead, allow yourself time to work through the grieving process.
  • 9 Ways to Make Visitation after Divorce Easier
    Newly divorced parents have a lot of adjustments to make, but ultimately they want to ease the pain for their children. Here are some tips to help take the sting out of visitation.

Life After Divorce?

The hurt and disruption caused by a divorce can make you question whether there can be life after divorce. How can I pick up the pieces and how good will the quality of life be after a divorce?

Talking to kids

You need to be tuned into your kid's life to guide them through the problems they will face and recognize when they are in over their head. Good communication needs to be built up and maintained. It cannot suddenly be created when a crisis comes along.

Good listening

Good listening skills are essential but in short supply these days. 

  • Pay attention. No distractions
  • Invite them to talk e.g. "tell me about ..."
  • Be patient as kids verbal skills are not perfect
  • Listen and look for emotions being expressed
  • Acknowledge what they are saying
  • Keep questions to a minimum

Be available when they need you

This may seem obvious but we often get caught up in the day to day hassle of life. If you really cannot make time for them there and then, make an appointment to be with them. Assure them that there will be no distractions and you will be better able to listen.

Make time to be with your child regularly

By making time regularly for your kid, you make them feel special and that you are interested in what's going on in their life. They will feel much more comfortable talking to you if they are facing a problem.


If they want you to keep a secret, do not promise to keep it. The information may be too important and you may need to share it with others to deal with whatever they tell you.

Instead tell them that you will keep it to yourself so long as it does not involve something that might be serious and affect their health or welfare.

Use positive language

Do not use the "I told you so" if a child admits to a mistake. Be positive. Use phrases like "I am glad you know how to better deal with that next time". A negative response can shut down your child's communication just when they need you. 

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