Women's Divorce Blog

13 February 2019

Life After Divorce?

The hurt and disruption caused by a divorce can make you question whether there can be life after divorce. How can I pick up the pieces and how good will the quality of life be after a divorce?

Talking to your ex

  • Poor communication can lead to divorce
  • Divorce makes communication more difficult
  • Beware staying in touch with your ex (no kids)

Poor communication has been identified as a major problem in relationships and can contribute to divorce. You should examine your communication style and skills after your divorce. This will help you in future relationships.

Communication with your ex - divorced singles (no kids)

You both can have a fresh start after divorce without the obligation to stay in touch so long as financial issues such as selling a house are completed.


What if you want to stay in touch?

It is understandable if you want to stay in touch after a friendly divorce. You should judge if you have truly found closure. You may need to cut off contact for a period of time to understand emotionally that the relationship is over. Remaining in contact can be a way to stay in a familiar situation.

We tend to avoid change and can hide in familiar situations even if they are not good for us. Make sure you are facing up to the challenges of being single again. Sometimes parents or other relatives may encourage continuing contact inviting both of you for celebrations. Perhaps they are holding out hope that both of you may get back together.

How to handle it 

Perhaps the best way to handle this issue is to cut off contact mutually for 6 months to a year at least and set up your independent single lives. You may well find then that you have no interest in making contact but at least if you do, it will not hold you back from moving on with your life.

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