Women's Divorce Blog

  • Facebook and Divorce – Proceed with Caution
    Not only can social media contribute to the breakup of a marriage, it can also impact your divorce as well. Here’s why you should avoid social media before and during your divorce.
  • Who can file as Head of Household?
    Many divorced parents don’t understand the rules regarding filing as “Head of Household” when doing their taxes. Keep reading to find out what they are.
  • Best Way to Sell an Engagement Ring after Divorce
    After a bad marriage and a bad divorce, many women are ready to get rid of this symbol of eternal love. These tips can help turn your bridal bling into money.
  • Allow Yourself to Heal
    Denying the emotional pain of divorce by trying to avoid it or push it away can actually extend the time it takes to heal. Instead, allow yourself time to work through the grieving process.
  • 9 Ways to Make Visitation after Divorce Easier
    Newly divorced parents have a lot of adjustments to make, but ultimately they want to ease the pain for their children. Here are some tips to help take the sting out of visitation.

Life After Divorce?

The hurt and disruption caused by a divorce can make you question whether there can be life after divorce. How can I pick up the pieces and how good will the quality of life be after a divorce?

Grieving after divorce

  • Grieving is a natural process
  • Permit yourself to feel the emotions but do not wallow
  • Remain active even if you do not feel like it
  • Get help if you are stuck

The end of relationships are naturally painful and difficult. We experience a serious loss not just of the other person but also of who we thought we were.

Often in a marriage, you will become a married person in your head, doing things married people do, having a routine and in time you define yourself or at least part of yourself in terms of being married. After the divorce, you have to grieve that lost part of yourself and redefine yourself.

 

The process of grieving

This is an emotional process not an intellectual one

  • Allow yourself to feel the emotions
  • Communicate the feelings e.g. journals, friends, professionals
  • Do not overload yourself with responsibilities e.g. work
  • Lean on others as you need to in your support network

  • If you have thoughts of harming yourself or are becoming very isolated, get professional help

Grieving after divorce 

Grieving after divorce can often be confusing. Your ex partner is often still around and you may even still be in contact because of your kids or because of some unfinished business.

 

  • Mourn the relationship
  • Recognize that it is over
  • Minimize interactions with your ex
  • Do not listen to gossip or other information on your ex
  • Recognize that you are now single again and start to take some action based on this
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